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Last time, we discussed parenting roles. Today, we’ll focus on how love and discipline go hand in hand in raising children.
Children, born with a sinful nature, will naturally make mistakes. It’s our responsibility as parents to teach and correct them. Discipline, including physical discipline, can be a necessary part of this process. Proverbs 22:15 says, “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” This highlights the importance of discipline in guiding our children toward wisdom and proper behavior.
However, physical discipline should not be the first resort. Start with patience and guidance, using physical discipline only when a child is deliberately disobedient. For example, our daughter can be stubborn about her homework. When coaching and non-physical discipline didn’t work, we used spanking as a last resort, and it helped her realize she could complete the work on her own.
Physical discipline, when done with love and restraint, can be effective. Proverbs 23:13–14 says, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; Though you strike him with the rod, he will not die. You shall strike him with the rod And rescue his soul from Sheol.” However, parents must discipline with the right motives and never in anger, as this can lead to abuse.
True love involves correcting sinful behavior. Proverbs 13:24 states, “He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” Discipline, when done correctly, is an expression of love that helps children grow in obedience and righteousness.
While discipline is necessary, it’s equally important to express love in ways your child understands. Consider the Five Love Languages to discover how your child best receives love. Remember, Psalm 127:3 says, “Behold, children are a gift of the LORD.” Jesus welcomed children and emphasized their value in God’s kingdom (Matthew 18:10, Mark 9:36–37). If we, as imperfect parents, can love our children, how much more does our Heavenly Father love us?
Join us next time as we discuss the results of parents’ sin.
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