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Last time, we discussed how to prepare for marriage. Today, we’ll explore a different path—one that not everyone is called to, but one that holds a unique place in Christian life: the gift of celibacy.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines celibacy as “the state of not being married, abstention from sexual intercourse, and abstention by vow from marriage.” Similarly, Wikipedia describes celibacy as “the state of voluntarily being unmarried, sexually abstinent, or both, usually for religious reasons.”
Celibacy is essentially the decision to remain single and abstain from sexual activity, often with the purpose of dedicating oneself more fully to God’s service. For some, this path is seen as a special gift, allowing them to focus on their spiritual life without the distractions that can come with marriage and family. However, it’s important to note that not everyone is called to this way of life.
Jesus Himself acknowledged this in Matthew 19:7-12. When His disciples remarked that it might be better not to marry at all if divorce is so restricted, Jesus responded by saying, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.” He then explained that some people are celibate due to circumstances beyond their control, while others choose celibacy for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Jesus recognized that celibacy is a calling that not everyone can accept or live out, but for those who can, it is a noble choice.
Paul also discusses celibacy in 1 Corinthians 7. While he acknowledges that marriage is good and honorable, he suggests that celibacy can be even better for those who are able to live that way. He explains that an unmarried person can devote themselves fully to the Lord, without the divided interests that come with marriage. Paul himself was celibate and saw great value in this lifestyle for those who are called to it.
However, Paul is clear that celibacy is not a commandment for everyone. He advises those who struggle with self-control to marry, as it is better to marry than to burn with passion. For those who are married, Paul encourages them to stay committed to their spouse and not seek to escape their marriage. He presents celibacy as a good option for those who can accept it, but he also affirms that marriage is a good and honorable path.
Celibacy, therefore, is a unique and valuable gift for those who are called to it. It allows for undistracted devotion to the Lord and a focus on spiritual matters that can be more challenging for those with the responsibilities of a family. However, it is not a path for everyone. Whether one chooses marriage or celibacy, the key is to live in a way that honors God and fulfills the calling He has placed on your life.
Join us next time as we explore the parenting roles in the family.
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